Friedman’s Theory of Self-Differentiation (video less than 7min)

https://theology.sewanee.edu/media/features/balancing-private-and-pastoral-practices/?fbclid=IwAR0CA-lK8K-OLp2efmesXyuU0k_0vMP-Xd1t38VDLloaXdloHZV8BX1Y-Tg

After watching the video, please post you reflections here.
What do you think about this perspective on leadership? Where might you disagree? Agree? What are contested narratives in your own life, or in the church? That is, where might this prove difficult for you or for church (and other) contexts?